When you offer unconditional love and it’s not accepted, please don’t be hurt. Please don’t take it personally. There’s nothing wrong with your love. It’s a gift, given freely. But, sometimes, the person to whom you wish to give this gift just doesn’t feel worthy of it. You know the person I mean—the one who pushes your love aside, while clinging desperately to those who dismiss and demean her (or him.) Why do they do that? It’s because that’s what she thinks of herself, that’s who she truly thinks she deserves. And it’s heart crushing, isn’t it, to see the person you love be treated this way, while you stand by, waiting to be acknowledged?
So, don’t do it. Don’t torture yourself, standing outside the window, staring in, never invited to come inside, watching as the person you love lives an unhappy life, clutching those close to his heart who mistreat him (or her) and never, ever, seeing you. Never valuing you. It’s not you. Your love is not faulty. Your love is something beautiful to be shared with those who can appreciate its beauty. That’s why you have to walk away. Continue to love, but walk away. Maybe someday, the person you love will be ready to love you in return. Maybe someday, the person you love will love herself enough to know she deserves beauty. She deserves you, or if not you, someone like you, someone who loves her fully, someone who won’t withdraw love, or dole it out like a sugar pellet given to a lab rat.
And maybe not. Maybe the person you love will never be whole.
But you can. You make the choice to be. You can be whole, with or without this person. You have to believe that, no matter how hard it is. To live life fully, you have to accept that there are some people who can just never learn to love—themselves or others.
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